Marriage should be the only way for everyone, both men and women. To tell the truth, marriage is a major event in life, it is not just a little thing, the reason why the title of “marriage this thing”, is to dilute people’s worries about marriage, after all, marriage this thing can be a major life project, its workload and difficulty can be called the “Three Gorges project” in our life.
The whole marriage thing
Marriage is inseparable from love, any marriage not based on love is immoral. When a man and a woman meet and admire each other, a relationship naturally begins. Not only do we feel happy in relationships, but we also feel anxious and miserable. In this article before and after their marriage, to tell the story of marriage this thing, to supper readers.
The whole marriage thing
I started dating late, when I was 23. Before talking about girlfriend, I once liked several girls silently in my heart. They were my primary school classmates, middle school classmates and colleagues respectively. Due to my growing background, I am introverted. Although I have a rich inner world, I am not good at talking. I am especially afraid of girls and dare not face the people I like.
The whole marriage thing
There have been no times of fantasy and their favorite girl double double fly, one day can not see her will be lost in mind, as if the sky has never been sunny. It is said that unrequited love is the most tormenting, how tormenting? Only those who have experienced it can appreciate it. In short, she had become the master of her soul, both in wanting to see her and in fearing to see her. Before I met my current wife, I didn’t reveal a little bit of my heart to the girls I liked. They would never dream that I liked them so much.
The whole marriage thing
Any chance in this world is destined to be the inevitable destination. Fate is the result of the collision between chance and necessity. Whether you believe in fate or not, I believe, otherwise we cannot explain the causal relationship between meeting, falling in love and becoming the best of both worlds. I am a firm materialist, but because of the fate of this thing shaken, this is very strange thing.
The whole marriage thing
My wife and I met in the early 1980s. Although we were comrades in the same trenches, we had never known before we met her that she existed on Earth and that she would become my wife. I remember that year, due to the work required me and several colleagues to go to the grass-roots branch to do the accounting inventory, which took three months. The branch is located in a very remote mountain village, although I was born in the countryside, but the first time to the site of this branch, I feel more primitive than the countryside I have been to. Except for a few brick bungalows in government offices, supply and marketing units, grain stores and other units, the peasants lived in low thatched houses, and the only thing associated with modern civilization was the yellow light.
The whole marriage thing
The day after I went to the grassroots branch, the girl who became my wife just came back from studying. When our eyes met for the first time it was like a light sweeping off a stone without any surprise. There was no stir in my heart. It was just the feeling of strangers. We are strangers, the first time to see each other, although it is the youth of blood age did not fall in love at first sight.
The whole marriage thing
Love is a thing that comes and goes. Somewhere along the way, I began to pay close attention to her every move. I liked the way she looked anxious and ashamed when she burned her food. Her rosy cheeks, close-cropped hair and innocent eyes made you want to look at her. She had just turned nineteen that year.
The whole marriage thing
How time flies, before we know it, we are almost at the end of the settlement work. I suddenly felt afraid that my work would end and I wouldn’t have a chance to see her every day. I can’t see her! That’s not okay! At this moment I believed I was in love with her. But, does she have me in her heart? Will you love me? I don’t know, I don’t feel, although we see each other every day, she cooks, I cook, at the table to listen to my story funny places she laughed her head off.
The whole marriage thing
The turning point came during the Spring Festival of that year, when she was single and assigned to be on duty. At this time, the work of our billing team was just over. I volunteered to stay on duty with her, so that she could have a company, and I had to find a chance to confess my love to her.
The whole marriage thing
On New Year’s Eve this day, the sun in the village came particularly early, the rooster sang a side of the rice field at the foot of the mountain will reveal the green color, the middle of the mountain holding a few clouds, rendering a little bit of the mist. A few thatched houses in the village at the foot of the mountain were hidden under tall coconut trees, their roofs curling with smoke.
The whole marriage thing
It was a peaceful, somewhat lonely morning. I gently knocked on her door. She appeared to me in a sleepy state after what seemed to be a late night’s sleep. She and I discussed what to cook and eat.
The whole marriage thing
Soon it was evening, and the sparse sound of firecrackers suggested that the place was not thriving. Other units around the network have been empty, empty mountain village lonely very. We were alone in the room now, two young men in a foreign land, sitting face to face in a small room with only four walls on a festive day.
The whole marriage thing
It was the first time we had been so close since we had known each other, and I could smell the fragrance of her hair, which was like a orchid and irritated my nerves. It’s the first time in my life I’ve ever been so close to a girl. A sudden impulse made me brave enough to approach her and give her a quick kiss on the forehead, then bounce off as if being shocked.
The whole marriage thing
There is a strange in this world called not experienced, grow so big for the first time in a girl’s body to leave their own mark, the time is very short, very unreal. I was tortured inside, waiting for her to respond. She leaned against the edge of the bed with her eyes slightly closed, thoughtful but expressionless, unresponsive to the kiss. Time and space seemed frozen. The room was so still that I could hear each other’s breath clearly. I began to lose my mind.
The whole marriage thing
I don’t know how long it was before I noticed that there were tears in the corners of her eyes. She must have been homesick, missing her parents and siblings far away. I moved closer to her again, pushing my fingers into her hair and gently stroking it. Her head slid into my arms. A sweet warmth rushed through my chest like lava protruding from the earth’s surface, and my hands trembled as I held her closer and closer, for fear that she would flee.
The whole marriage thing
Happiness sometimes comes so fast, so fast that you can’t guard against it. It was clear to me that we were in love at that moment. An experience I had never experienced before was burning through my body, and an uncertain worry and the courage to overcome all obstacles were suddenly born. I know that at the beginning of this moment, we must hold the hand of happiness tightly, break through obstacles and march forward, tomorrow will be better!
The whole marriage thing
We were together for three years. At the end of 1985, we held a wedding ceremony in the dormitory of our company, announcing our divorce and beginning our married life. More than thirty years have passed, our life is plain and happy, and now we have been promoted to grandparents. Marriage is not a point in the journey of life, but a perfect period, the beginning of a dream project.